motivation

Why I Stopped Complaining

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Hey Guys and Girls

The other day I was in a conversation with my girls and as everyone does, my friend was telling us that she is feeling tired of University. At that  moment in time she prefered to be doing anything else besides being at Uni. I could have chosen to be sympathetic and complain/whinge with her  however deep down i knew that this wouldn’t be the most emotionally productive thing to do.

In life you make choices and when you make those choices you need to be prepared to deal with the outcome in a positive manner therefore you choose wisely. I explained to my friend that there was a time when she prayed or wished to be at University and now that she is here, her prayers or wish has been answered. (Of course she found me annoying for telling her that but deep down she knew I was right).

It has been proven that people who complain less tend to have better mental and emotional health. Hence then why when you choose to say something negative about your life that does have an impact because words have power. If you don’t believe that words have power try getting into an argument with someone and I guarantee you that what they to you or about you will have an impact on you two’s relationship. If you understand the power and impact words can have on others then why all of a sudden we forget that the words or the way we speak about ourselves has an impact.

I personally stopped complaining because I decided to adopt or adapt a thankful mentality/attitude therefore whenever I am about to complain about something I think, did i pray or really want the thing that I am about to complain about and if the answer is yes then I bite my tongue and start focusing on what’s next.  I am not saying stay in a bad situation that is a consequence of a bad choice you had made but you can always change the situation. instead of complaining start focusing on what I can do to change the given situation. From there you start using that negative experience as a learning experience so that you know what to avoid in the future.

You may be thinking that this girl is unrealistic in the way I think or see the world and to be honest  I get where you are coming from however this is something that I have had to work on for years. This is something I am still working on and one of the useful practises that I have adopted is the ability to be conscious of my thoughts. What i think about is likely to actually impact my everyday life.

Positive thoughts lead to positive actions

and positive actions leads

to you being fulfilled and

not complaining as much.

Much Love

Senz x

A date with my future

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This past weekend I had the opportunity to attend #Sister2Sister conference in London and as part of our ministry we hold such events to educate, empower and motivate each other as young women who are still in education (Thank you God for our BLW nation). This message isn’t only for young women but also young men and who ever is still in education.

From a young age parents, teachers, friends and siblings have been encouraging us to go to university so that you can get a degree then get a good job (can I get an amen). However things are changing in our environment and now it is common to be a graduate with a degree and yet be unemployed and this an issue that is faced by many graduates in nations.

At the event Pastor encouraged us that whatever we choose to study in university do not study it because you want to get a good job after graduation but study that subject so that you gain knowledge that will enable you to meet someones need. In all honesty the greatest satisfaction that you get isn’t the check that you get at the end of the month but it is knowing that as a person you are helping someone by meeting their need. Also make sure that whatever you choose to do in your life ensure that it is something that excites you, because if you don’t like what you are doing as a career you are then going to be living a miserable life. Your job is going to take most of your adult life therefore if you are working and doing something that you don’t like this is going to make you miserable. Do something that you love, Do something that excites you so that you live a happier life.

Going back to the unemployment amongst graduates, instead of looking for a job like most of your classmates, why not create the jobs for your class mates. be the one that provides solutions to clients needs but also to those who are in need of Jobs. Whatever field you are interested in, look into that field, see how you can provide a service that is needed and be the one that provides that service.

The most important thing that you can do about your future is imagine it. God didn’t give us imagination so that we can only use it to imagine being in Jamaica on holiday (it is freezing in England at the moment so let a sister dream). God gave us imagination so that we can be creative not only in artistry but in our futures. I ask you to take at least 5 mins everyday and imagine yourself in 5 years time; do this everyday and keep on adding onto your future. When you are done imagining your future start taking the steps that are required for your desired future to come to pass.

If you are willing and obedient, you shall eat the good of the land;

Isaiah 1 verse 19

This scripture brings clarity as it tells us that if you are willing (if you are willing to be an architect, to be a fashion designer, to be a psychologists) and obedient, you listen to the word of God and apply and obey it and also listen in your lectures and be diligent in your studies therefore you shall eat the good of the land, you shall be successful for you have a strong foundation in God.

With Love

Senz x

My kind of Feminism

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Hello love

I know my bio states that I am a feminists and its time I addressed my views regarding feminism I know its a heavy and unpopular subject . Back in 2013 Beyonce introduced me to Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie‘s definition of a feminist which is “feminist: A person who believes in the social,political and economic equality of the sexes” . This definition made me realise that there is no need to be a closet feminist because back then what i understood about feminism was that, feminism promotes women’s rights but also undermine men. I was okay with the empowering women part but I didn’t approve of the men bashing attitude hence why I was a closet feminist.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s definition of feminism changed my attitude towards feminism. This was my foundation because I now know that you do not need to be female to be a feminist. I believe that if you are standing up for women and men all over the world who are denied of basic human rights and devalued to the point where death is better than living, I then urge to be a feminist because you are using any given opportunity to represent, to speak out for that person that has been denied a voice because of their gender.

Before being a feminist I am a lover of Jesus and that means I have been made free to love those that aren’t loveable. To serve those that the world neglects and I have the holy spirit to help me. Having the holy spirit in my journey as a feminists means that I am diligent and I take great care. As I grow wiser I vow to empower women in my society and around the world so that they can see how much they have been clothed in grace so that they do not need to live off peoples compliments/standards because the day they don’t receive a  compliment they would die (metaphorically). I pray that I encourage women to stand up and leave that abusive relationships, so that their partner can get help and learn how to treat her or him with love and kindness. I also pray that in nations where women aren’t allowed to go to school by God’s grace they allow girls to go to school. I pray that my siblings and future children know that a woman has the same opportunities as a man because we are all humans, we are all Gods’ people.

As a young woman I am glad that I have been made free and given divine joy and peace therefore it is my time to show others of this truth.

P.S. Lets get talking and let me know your views on feminism and any thing else in relation to the subject.

With Love

Senz x

Chaos

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Today I am going to talk about chaos because in the past few days and maybe even weeks I have felt like my life has been a bit chaotic and to a certain extent I love it. I know most of the time when talking about chaos it is perceived in a negative manner and I understand why so, but lately I have been living such a busy life. I now have to write down certain things that I have to done so that I can keep track and I am grateful for that.

The thing is; I have known that there is a certain time in my life when everything is going to become chaotic and I am glad that I had prepared for this. How did you prepare for a chaotic life?….you ask. Well I can honestly say start developing a peaceful mindset and this means that whatever stress factors may come you will be calm and they won’t overwhelm  you as as they could have without a sound mind. As a person you always have a choice as what kind of attitude you have regarding certain situations, you can be the person who thinks that the world is against them, everything and everyone is out there to hurt them but let me do you massive favour at the start of the year and tell you STOP right there i said STOP.

Start to look at a situation from the optimistic point of view. Yes bad things happen to good people but don’t let those bad things make you into a bad person or make you feel worthless and as if you are a victim. The moment you lose the “why me” attitude and thats the moment you rise up and going to get what is rightfully yours. Everything that you do, everyday of your life counts and I tell you this DO NOT WASTE these days because you will look back this time next year and think what did I actually do and achieve in 2015. Don’t let your New Years resolution last for a week or day, start making those significant changes that will make your year triumphant.

Don’t be a victim, Be a victor

With Love

Senz x

Proudly rebellious

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hello love

I don’t know about you but between the ages of 13-15 I had always wanted to grow up and be an adult (the being independent part was so attractive), for instance I behaved like a 16 year old when I was 13-14 and whenever people told me that I am mature for my age I did take that as a compliment and thought gee I am almost independent. However things changed when I turned 16 and started to realise that I am growing up and how much responsibility I had which wasn’t what I had bargained for. Therefore between the ages of 16-17 I rebelled as much as I could from what my parents had taught me because to be honest I wanted to remain childish as long as I could and also I was curious as to why they didn’t allow me to do certain things.

Now looking back at the decisions and choices I made I am not proud of them but I am also glad that I made them because I actually got the opportunity to experience life and from those experiences God was starting to call  me into his kingdom.

I was blind and wanted the approval of this world. I wanted my peers to know how different and unique I was which lead to me being confused because I then had no idea who I was. The ironic thing is that my desire to be different and rebel against the world have been turned around and used in the right way. In the book of Romans 12:2  it says “ Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God,even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you]”.

I am going to look at the bold part of this verse because this is what I did, I stopped rushing and seeking human approval and I changed the way I looked at things. I stopped conforming to the worlds standard and Ideas of rebellion and I started to look at how I can please God and i soon realised that the more I worked towards pleasing God the more I became a rebel in the eyes of man.

Right now I encourage you to think about your life and see whom are you being true and honest to. If you aren’t being true to yourself or God I encourage you to let go of that situation or negative energy and it’s time you focus on doing you and being honest with yourself and being honest to God.

Remember when everything else fades, you remain

Much love

Senz x

The Good Room

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Hello love 🙂

So today I want to address the fact at certain times in our lives or journey we may wish or want to be someone else because that person seems to have a better life or has it all together therefore their current situation seem more appealing than yours.

I am not going lie to you and say I have never done that before because trust me there has been times where I have wished that the ground could open up and just swallow me. I am learning that is not the way it is, there has been times when I wished I could be more bold and confident like Olivia Pope and Queen Esther or more hipster like Jhene Aiko or have Solange Knowles/Erykah Badu’s wardrobe. These are the women or character who have certain characteristics that I admire and respect because they are unapologetically themselves.

In my journey with Jesus I have realised that there are times when I try and present the most “holy” version of myself but through one of Joyce Meyers‘ and Michael Jr  a revelation came to me about how as people we have a good room that is always tidy/nice and clean. This good room is there so that we can impress others because it is the perfect room but what we may forget or neglect to do is that we present the perfect parts of our selves to a God that has known us before we were born (Jeremiah 1 verse 5). Instead of trying to impress God with the good room why not unveil ourselves and simply be honest and truthful with him because yes he knows you in and out but he is a God that listens therefore take that opportunity and talk him about the gruesome parts of your life. “I have always said Jesus didn’t die for this” when ever I feel trapped because I know that I don’t have to pretend with him and also I am not going to accept the devil trying to walk over me.

Jesus died for me when I was a sinner and I was loved before I truly understood whom he truly was and received salvation. For me to wish to be like Sister A or Brother B in church simply implies that I have underestimated God’s ability to make me such a unique individual. Yes Sister A or Brother B can inspire me but there is a difference between being inspired and simply imitating the individual. God already has Sister A and she is there doing what God has desired for her to do, God didnt create and call me to be a replica of Sister A because I was born to fulfil my own purpose and to be me and that means I am the Senzeni that isn’t perfect in your eyes, iam sinner but thank you to Jesus i am saved and I know I am unique and fearfully made in the image of Christ and so are you my love x

Expectation…..Alteration……Revelation….TRANSFORMATION

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Hello beautiful or handsome person

So let me be honest you,  I love comedy and anything comic related however there was a time when certain comedians got too explicit for me and I thought am sure there must be something out there that is funny but doesn’t disrespect others or make my spirit uncomfortable. So Youtube once again came to the rescue and I found the comedian Michael Jr who made me laugh and taught me something that I am using to reflect on my life. The man made me laugh and also ministered to me and to be honest at that time, I thanked God for bringing me closer to him through Michael Jr’s third act . 

In September 2011, I started year 12 (I think it’s junior year in high school in the USA)  in Sixth form after doing well in my GCSE’s. Because I did well in my GCSE’S without putting much effort and hard work in, I thought A levels would be the same. My expectation was to pass my A levels without putting any work in but boy was I wrong. Fast forwarding to results day I found out that I had failed half of my subjects and the one that I “passed” I had passed them with an E which is basically a fail in my mind.My alteration was that I had to do year 12 again and that meant joining the year below me in certain subject areas and watch the year that I started with leave and go to university while I stayed behind for an extra year in sixth form. During my alteration season a revelation came, in that season I learnt who God was, who was my true friend, I became to understand the value and love for family and this lead to my transformation. 

I now stand no longer fearing or seeking human approval, I learnt to see me as God saw me, I learnt to say I Love You to my mother (I wasn’t the emotional type) , I learnt to yield under the holy spirit. Me failing my first year in sixth form made me the young woman that I am today and I am glad and thankful for that season in my life.

I encourage you that whatever situation that you are going through know that, that situation is going to contribute to the testimony and also your growth. That situation isn’t forever and greater is coming. I am glad that you are going through that situation because you will come out stronger and I can’t wait to hear your testimony.